ABSILVER's World

I am in Provincetown and the magic is in the air. Men, women, gay, straight all walking and being happy they are here. Great weather day and here I sit watching the water as the sun sets and thinking of a glass of wine. What struck me today, walking, and smiling and going to Tea Dance was a great comfort in me. That I was never the pretty boy, and I don't feel like the most handsome man at the fair but I feel comfortable in who Brian is and how I approach my life and a moment. I don't try and wear designer labels that younger men would wear. Frankly, I don't try to wear designer labels any way. If there is a Calvin Klein name in my house frankly it in my comforter, and underwear from Costco. That said, I watch all these men that are my age or older trying to dress as if they still are the pretty one in the room. Wearing an Abercrombie and Fitch shirt too tight for their age and body. Or, the man who decides to go shirtless and looks like his body does not match his

If you are planning a visit to Provincetown. Here are some of my words of wisdom. * Just remember, there is no place like Provincetown. Not even Truro, 5 miles away can match the unique charm here. * Be clear as you get off the ferry, you will see fairies of all kinds. * We really are not concerned with how you do it in Boston, LA, New York, Miami, or for that matter any where else. * Leave for your destination 15 minutes early and walk slowly. This Will make all the difference in how you learn to enjoy the town and its rare beauty. * Greatest danger to life and limb are bicyclists going against traffic at higher speeds. * People may not remember your name, but they will remember your dog's name. * Service is good, food is plentiful and tasty, but remember this is a slower pace and so instead of frustration over the time service takes remember to just breathe. * There is not a Starbucks, but there is a Wired Puppy and a Joe's coffee. * You may come across the odd straight cou

As I look, to what I believe will be a yearly change, to head to Ptown for the summer what things do I think I know for sure. I am a very lucky man. 51 years ago today, my parents married. I am lucky to have them and so many solid relationships in my family growing up. I also feel lucky that not only have they lasted but they love, and like each other and their children love and admire them. The rest are in quite random order... 1) Swifter is great, but they don't replace a mop and broom for everything. 2) Friends are fun and entertaining but the best of my friends have an ability to provide silent support. You just happen to know they are there and seem to appear at the moment you need them. 3) Love does not conquer all, but it does live beyond time. 4) Diana Ross does have a very distinct and unique voice. Unique and Range make for lasting careers more than the purist vocal instrument. 5) Barbra Streisand has the rare combination of a great vocal instrument, unique voice, a

So.. as I sit on a long flight to Vegas it causes my mind to wonder as always.. so here we go. This adventure will be many firsts for me. First time in Vegas not as an IBM employee. Although, going for Impact 2010 means I have not gotten very far from the platform. I keep thinking of the vision of standing on a platform and you have to step on the train. That last moment when you lift your foot off that back platform and step on the train. Some days I think I am on a new train and frankly sometimes I feel that back foot is firmly planted while I am looking in the train. Second, I am there to promote what I do for a living focused on marketing and partners. I have this idea around Right Sized Marketing. Helping partners add to their execution plans the ability to leverage agency caliber work at the right size for them. Focused on their needs, their business plan, their marketing requirements, and frankly their budget so they get the best they need for their work. Las Vegas is a

Hello to the world... I sit here in my little space feeling more optimistic than I have in a long while. The economy seems to be on the mend. For the first time in my new career, I can see work all the way through June and I am at peace for the weekend. I have seemed to at moments have made some mindless mistakes lately. Last Friday I missed a conference call for work. Last night had some friends over for dinner and accidentally turned the oven off. You can't very well serve chicken tartar. So, over more beer and hummus the chicken cooked. If you ever want a fool proof way to cook chicken breasts (bone in please) Google Barefoot Contessa and Chicken Salad. The recipe to cook the chicken breast is a no fail recipe. That said, I would recommend Whole Foods or kosher chickens to start. The best part, was having moments this week where my mind just hummed. I had a great call with a partner on Wednesday about something totally new business wise and low and behold it just came

I sit here on a Friday. A holiday of my own choice, because today, I am my own boss. Not sure, sometimes I feel like I am more at the whim of others. But, today I am my boss and so I am taking a day off in sunny Fort Lauderdale. Listening to Madonna, cleaning house, and checking an occasional email. Then off to lunch in the hood with Kevin and Rich. Life is pretty darn good today. I like living near the hood. In the middle of this all, another drama plays out as it has so many times. Harry is packing, shipping, and shutting down his winter holiday. Time to go back. The flowers are starting to bloom. The Daffodils are coming up... and as Harry taught me.. flowers come up in colors in the spring and the first are yellows. When Harry and I were together. These four months were long and short to me. More importantly they were not the event they are today. If it was time to be back in New Jersey, it just meant he and Daisy would be back in a working rhythm with me. The differe

Where is Home? Ever wonder.. what or where is home for you? Is home where you were born? Is home where you put your head each night, so it changes? Is it where you wake up and smile? I am having one of those days where contemplating home, and where that is or should be is on my mind. I am a very lucky man with choices. While the world is rocking and rolling.. I have choices as to where or how I want to live. I know for most people, life is moving so fast they don't have the luxury to stop and wonder. I have created a pause in my life, and I am wondering where I am headed. Today I have two homes, and I am not sure if I know the core answer. I was at breakfast today saying I need an anchor, and I need a place that I can just know is my base. Doesn't mean I can't have a second place.. but I need an anchor that when someone says where are you from? I don't feel like a multiple choice test: a) where I was born? b) Where I live? c) Where I work? d) Where my heart is? e