Can a Leopard change it's stripes?
Here I sit on the verge of a career intersection. Working with IBM partners, and getting ready for an IBM event on Monday. But, I don't work for IBM any more. I represent myself and the company(s)I partner with. So, picture it, I am on a conference call to support this event. Where we have a virtual booth, at a virtual venue, and it is all a virtual event.
It is like going to a family reunion, and since the last one you got married and adopted three hamsters. Those that loved you at the last one want to catch up, and those that didn't well... the same is true. But now you have a spouse who does not have your history with the family, and can judge your behavior and relationships objectively. So, you sit down to dinner and all the family dynamics and sibling rivalries show up but your spouse sees it more like a sitcom pilot that never made it to the air.
What do you do? What do you when it is work related and you can feel through the keyboard what is wrong. It hasn't been that long. You wonder about the details, because for 24 years you learned. 24 years your instincts were refined. For 24 years it became the most consistent event in your life. Not hard to turn that back on, and you put yourself back into the intersection. Where, your new partner, knows you don't belong any more. You need to hone new skills of dealing with the old family. Just as you would do with a new spouse joining you for a family reunion.
Or, is it more like getting invited to an event with your ex's family? Think about it. You know all the dynamics of the family, you show up with a date and everyone that wants your friendship and companionship are there. But, those that don't... oh boy. And you know all the family issues, but you are now officially an insider. You need to be considerate of your new partner, and realize the family that was once yours will change and maybe be a family but not the same.
So here I sit.. wondering, preparing, and looking forward. Maybe that is the key after all, to remember to consistently look forward and not at the past?
It is like going to a family reunion, and since the last one you got married and adopted three hamsters. Those that loved you at the last one want to catch up, and those that didn't well... the same is true. But now you have a spouse who does not have your history with the family, and can judge your behavior and relationships objectively. So, you sit down to dinner and all the family dynamics and sibling rivalries show up but your spouse sees it more like a sitcom pilot that never made it to the air.
What do you do? What do you when it is work related and you can feel through the keyboard what is wrong. It hasn't been that long. You wonder about the details, because for 24 years you learned. 24 years your instincts were refined. For 24 years it became the most consistent event in your life. Not hard to turn that back on, and you put yourself back into the intersection. Where, your new partner, knows you don't belong any more. You need to hone new skills of dealing with the old family. Just as you would do with a new spouse joining you for a family reunion.
Or, is it more like getting invited to an event with your ex's family? Think about it. You know all the dynamics of the family, you show up with a date and everyone that wants your friendship and companionship are there. But, those that don't... oh boy. And you know all the family issues, but you are now officially an insider. You need to be considerate of your new partner, and realize the family that was once yours will change and maybe be a family but not the same.
So here I sit.. wondering, preparing, and looking forward. Maybe that is the key after all, to remember to consistently look forward and not at the past?
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